Haya – Life and Modesty

Once Arabs were a society that was indulged in adultery, vulgarity and great sins.  Pagans of Makkah were rude, uncivilized, barbaric, cheaters, liars, abusive and obscene.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), a person from the same society, diverted them towards piety, purity, modesty, simplicity and goodness.  He did not curse pagan’s faith, did not criticize their rituals, never raised his eye-brows and changed his voice harsh against their immodest activities, never confined himself to his beloveds, never refuses to help those who hated him.  He never stampeded on streets to terrorize Makkans with the power of his anger, except at the time of victory of Makkah, such a unique incident when he invaded the city with peace and forgiveness.

He was a socially developed person by nature; full of wisdom, admirer of beauty and pleasure, a symbol of grace and modesty/haya, confident in himself and smiling to people.  He knew how to and when to communicate with people.  He openly declared that he loves three things the most and those were perfume, salah and women (he did not use the name of any relationship).  And what he said, he always meant.

Haya/modesty is an inevitable part of Muslims’ faith, both men and women.  It is also categorized as one of the prophetic attributes.  With the root letters ‘ha and ya’, it literally means ‘life’ in Arabic.  In religious terms, it has been described as covering body (practice the ruling of sitr/body parts that should be covered), shyness (lower gaze/extreme softness), chastity (staying away from sex related activities), timidity (lack of confidence/not so sure), modesty (a moderate behaviour/simplicity/humbleness).  Haya is not a culture or tradition.  Haya is not a gender-based characteristic.  Haya requires not to shut women inside their houses and their disconnection to God’s world.

Beside its literal meanings, the most suitable word for ‘haya’ in English is ‘modesty’.  Allah (SWT) created the world with balance.  “He has set up the Balance (of Justice),  In order that ye may not transgress (due) balance.  So establish weight with justice and fall not short in the balance.” Surah Ar-Rahman/The Most Compassionate.  God brought universe into existence with balance (equilibrium, harmony, limits, due proportion, moderation).  The balance, with above synonyms, ensures life, not in span but in quality.  This entire surah describes the diversity of things working in their own limitations, which Allah (SWT) mentions as “the blessings from your Lord” and He orders us not to destroy it.

“And a sign for them is the night, We withdraw therefrom the day, and behold, they are in darkness.  And the sun runs on its fixed course for a term (appointed). That is the Decree of the All-Mighty, the All-Knowing.  And the moon, We have measured for it mansions (to traverse) till it returns like the old dried curved date stalk.  It is not for the sun to overtake the moon, nor does the night outstrip the day. They all float, each in an orbit.”  Surah Yaseen.

Prophet Muhammad (pubh) said, “Haya/modesty does not bring but goodness.”  He is right.  A humble, moderate, pure and simple behaviour causes nothing but beauty, pleasure and relaxation.  The way he ate, drank, walked, talked, greeted people, welcomed his opponents, treated animals, cheered children, respected women, helped the needy, behaved at home, led campaigns (both preaching and political), fought battles, treated prisoners, imposed laws, told stories, tolerated enmity, settled disputes, explained Qur’an, delivered sermons, ruled Madinah, ran the government – all reveal the secrets of his extraordinary, unique, short-time success in driving people towards piety, purity, modesty, simplicity and goodness.

So in general, haya is a process of knowing your own limitations and letting others (diversities) live and work in their specified boundaries/hudood.  Qur’an has warned us at many places not to break the limits that Allah (SWT) has ordained on every Muslim.  Haya is used in Urdu in the meanings of limitations too, such as, ‘haya karo, masjid main kharay ho ker jhoot boltay ho…. kuch to haya kur, maan baap se is tarah baat kertay hain…. oye haya kur, is ne teray liye bohat qurbaniyyan di hain….. koi haya nahi, jo munh main ataa hay buk deta/deti hay…. oye haya ker, Allah ka khata hay aur Allah ki na farmani kerta hay…. etc.

The world right now is under the process of globalization, all countries under one flag, the whole world population under unified system – many evil powers have imposed wars in order to control the entire globe.  It is only Islam which is worthy of being the ruling power of the world because it is based on characteristics and merit.  People of the world are looking for solutions to their problems and what Muslims are showing them is anger, fire, hatred to their beloved days.

George Bernard Shaw said, “If any religion had the chance of ruling over England, nay Europe within the next hundred years, it could be Islam.  I have always held the religion of Muhammad in high estimation because of its wonderful vitality. It is the only religion which appears to me to possess that assimilating capacity to the changing phase of existence which can make itself appeal to every age. I have studied him – the wonderful man and in my opinion for from being an anti-Christ, he must be called the Savior of Humanity.  I believe that if a man like him were to assume the dictatorship of the modern world he would succeed in solving its problems in a way that would bring it the much needed peace and happiness: I have prophesied about the faith of Muhammad that it would be acceptable to the Europe of tomorrow as it is beginning to be acceptable to the Europe of today.”

http://www.emro.who.int/publications/healthedreligion/IslamicPerspective/Chapter3.htm  The site mentions how considerate was Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) regarding carefulness and precautions.

Jamat-e-Islami announced to observe ‘Yom-e-Haya’ meaning ‘the modesty day’ on 14th February.

Christians have their reason to celebrate Valentine’s Day on 14th February.  Just like Muslims celebrate their own occasions with their own understanding.  For Muslims, if everyday is a mother’s day, father’s day, sister and brother’s day, teacher’s day, when what could be the reason for observing ‘haya’ on one day.  Haya should also be practiced everyday.  It is not just Valentine’s Day which non-Islamic.  Jahez, rape, infanticide, birthdays, Happy New Year parties, mayon and mehndi, prostitution in every neigbourhood, drug, illiteracy (inability to read and write), beggary, standing and cheering on the body of dead animals, cows and goats eating from garbage, cats and dogs wandering in search of food,  also fall into this category.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said,  “Cursed be everyone who causes harm to a believer or schemes against him.”

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “No believer may humiliate himself”. When he was asked how any person would humiliate himself, he said: “By exposing himself to risks with which he cannot cope.” (it doesn’t mean that one should not experiment or try but with preparations and precautions.)

He (pbuh) said, “Shall I tell you the definition of a believer? He is one with whom people feel themselves and their property to be safe. A Muslim is the one who does not abuse people by word or deed.”

See the following photo in the light of above hadith, what are we showing to the world, our ability to burn things out, is it according to what Prophet (pbuh) said?  Why do veiling women only show up with danda/sticks and fire?  Does Islam stop women to step out for positive reasons, such as planting flowers and trees, volunteering at Edhi centers in taking care of orphans and traveling within the allowed distance to educate children?

Islam strictly forbids cursing or insulting other’s faith and festivals.  According to Qur’anic logic, if you do that, you will get the same reaction from the other side.  Muslims should are not advised to instigate a situation against anyone but to settle down matters wisely.

Many people suggest that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) should be kept out of discussions.  Why?  Allah (SWT) says in Surah Al-Ahzab, “in Prophet’s seerah/character, there is the best example for you”.  Discussions based on what is haram and what is halal are incomplete without including Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).  We cannot treat him like a maulvi or a scholar that we drag him in at nikah/wedding sermon, divorce, aqiqah, for reading Qur’an or do milad otherwise we just keep him out of our lives.  He is guidance for us in every aspect of our lives.  He is nothing to be afraid of.

Many say, the anger is not against Christians or their festivals but Muslims who follow non-Islamic traditions.  This is just like cursing and burning kids in neighbourhood to show anger against your own child because he/she is following them.  It is your failure, you should curse yourself, burn banners with your name on them, you stand in front of the mirror and say to yourself ‘get lost’ and ‘my foot’.

Islam did not come to exterminate other’s religion, culture and traditions.  It came to introduce people the best way to a quality life.  It came to show how beautifully, peacefully and prosperously the whole mankind live under the flag of Islam.


حیا نہیں لاتی مگر خیر۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ 

شکر ہے ویلنٹانئز شہداء کا کہ جماعت اسلامی کو یوم حیا منانے کا اعزاز دے گئے۔۔۔ حالانکہ حیا کا پیغام اتنا ہی پرانا ہے جتنی انسانی تایخ۔۔۔ رسول الله صلی الله علیہ وسلم کو بھی حیا کا پیغام لائے چودہ سو سال گذر گئے۔۔۔ اور یوم حیا کا آج خیال آیا۔۔۔ عیسائیوں اور امریکنوں کے مقابلے پر۔۔۔

یوم حیا تو وہ دن تھا جس دن حضرت عائشہ رضی الله عنہا کی عزت اور عصمت پر لگائے گئے الزام کا داغ خود الله سبحانہ وتعالی نے قرآن کی آیات سے دھویا۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یوم حیا وہ دن تھا جب حضرت مریم علیہ السلام کی عزت اور عصمت پر لگائے گئے الزام کا دفاع ان کے معصوم بیٹے نے کیا۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یوم حیا وہ دن تھا جب حضرت یوسف علیہ السلام عزت اور عصمت پر لگائے گئے الزام کا جواب ان کے اپنے جسم پر موجود لباس نے دیا۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یوم حیا وہ دن تھا جب الله سبحانہ وتعالی نے قرآن کے ذریعے حضرت زینب بنت جحش کا آپ صلی الله علیہ وسلم کے ساتھہ نکاح کا اعلان کیا اور منافقوں کی زبانیں بند کیں۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔

لیکن جماعت اسلامی یا آج کل کے دینی لوگ کیا جانیں۔۔۔ کیا جانیں یہ کسی کی عزتیں بچانا, خوبصورتی اور احسان کے ساتھہ۔۔۔۔ یہ مقابلے کرسکتے ہیں, شک کرسکتے ہیں, تجسس کرسکتے ہیں, الزامات لگا سکتے ہیں, سزا سنا سکتے ہیں۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ 

سمجھہ نہیں آیا کہ اگر مسلمانوں کے لئے ہر دن ماں کادن, ہر دن باپ کا دن, ہر دن محبت کا دن۔۔۔ تو پھر حیا کے لئے ایک خاص دن کیوں۔۔۔ حیا بھی ہر دن ہونی چاہئے۔۔۔۔

ہمارے دینی لوگوں کی ذہنیت ملاحظہ ہو۔۔۔۔ لال مسجد کی خواتین ڈنڈے لے کر نکل آئیں سڑکوں پر۔۔۔ جماعت اسلامی کی خواتین نے سڑکوں پر آکر دنیا کو دکھایا کہ ہم جلانے کی طاقت بھی رکھتے ہیں۔۔۔

بس۔۔۔ یہی سیکھا سکھایا قرآن سے۔۔۔ مارنا, جلانا۔۔۔ 

اسلام سے محبت کا اظہار بھی بے چارے دوسروں سے نفرت کا اظہار کرکے کرتے ہیں۔۔۔ اور کوئی طریقہ نہیں سیکھا شاید۔۔۔  چلو سستی شہرت ہی سہی, دنیا میں مشہور تو ہوئے۔۔۔

وہ جو کسی نے کہا ہے کہ ۔۔۔۔ بد نام اگر ہوں گے تو کیا نام نہ ہوگا۔۔۔

حیا کا کلچر عام کرو, یہ کام صبح سے شام کرو

مارو تھپڑ بیٹوں کو گر وہ آنکھہ لگا ئیں عورت پر

قیمہ کردو شوہروں کا گر وہ ہاتھہ اٹھائیں بیوی پر

شرم دلاؤ بھائیوں کو گر وہ تاک میں جائیں لڑکی کے

نظرمیں رکھو باپوں کو جب پاس کھڑے ہوں کھڑکی کے

 مردوں کی مصروفیت کا چوبیس گھنٹے انتظام کرو

حیا کا کلچر عام کرو, یہ کام صبح سے شام کرو

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I'm Be-Positive. Life is like tea; hot, cold or spicy. I enjoy every sip of it. I love listening to the rhythm of my heart, that's the best

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