Which one is a better choice?

Burying daughters alive when they are infant or toddler OR raise them to adulthood and push them into the dungeon of unending trials, frighten them, torture them, listen to their screams and pleadings, throw acid on them, kill them?

Unfortunately, no other options are there for women to decide their fate.

Morally, legally and logically, both these choices are a sin but who cares about it.  Sin is no more a sin in civilized world until it is proven as a crime.

Arab tribes before Islam used to bury little daughters alive.  Now, we bury them after making their long horror movie.  

“And when the girl-child who was buried alive is asked, upon what sin was she killed for?”  Surah At-Takweer/The Rolling Up

“When one of them gets a baby girl, his face becomes darkened with overwhelming grief. Ashamed, he hides from the people, because of the bad news given to him. He even ponders: should he keep the baby grudgingly, or bury her in the dust. Miserable indeed is their judgment.” Surah An-Nahl/The Bee

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) strictly condemned the act of burying little girls alive.  He strongly urged men to treat women gently and with kindness.  Most Muslims men disobey the Prophet (pbuh), which is a practical blasphemy.  Yet, no religious leaders raise their voice against this disobedience and pass verdict on this blasphemy.

On the contrary, women are forced to shut their mouth and tolerate torture in lieu of Paradise.

“So their Lord accepted of them (their supplication and answered them), “Never will I allow to be lost the work of any of you, be he male or female. You are (members) one of another…” Surah Al-e-Imran/The Family of Imran 195

Okay, both ways God Almighty be happy with women.  What about men, would God be happy the way men control women and spread the carpet full of nails and thorns for them to walk on it in order to please God?



Do we care what is good for us?

I want to know if Coca Cola contains alcohol for real.  I hate PEPSI so I don’t care about it.  Oh yeah, and if clear soft drinks contain it too.  Those who are not into alcohol intentionally don’t have to worry about it.  They can drink ginger water instead after a heavy meal, just boil a piece of ginger in water, let it cool down and drink it.  Lemonade with a very little amount of sugar and pinch of black pepper early morning is a healthy substitute too.  Green tea is the best anyway. 



I want to know if Rose Petal factory has burned down as my shopkeeper informed me a week ago.  It wasn’t on news channels.  First I thought that he is just making it up because he doesn’t have their products.  But I couldn’t find them anywhere.  Rose Petal paper-towel and facial tissues are better in quality.  I wish I had enough money to buy a big forest, have a factory and produce my own Rubik paper-towels and tissues of Bounty quality.  They taste good.  No bhaeee, not the paper roll, the rose petal.  I used eat them when I was little.

I want to know the reason of keeping dozens of chickens in tiny cages at shops.  No one speaks for them.  I think it hurts their feet to stand in a cage.  Sometimes they sit on top of each other because of insufficient space.  Their cages and the shops are always stinky.  I wish I had a little farm where I can keep my own chickens neat and clean.  The chickens bear too much torture before serving people as a meal.  A man is what he eats and may be that is why people torture each other.
I want to know if Islam is the part of humanity or humanity is the part of Islam.  People, just like being the key resource, are the key runner of the entire system.  People are not God, they shouldn’t be treated as God, they shouldn’t play God, they shouldn’t try to ignore God and shouldn’t try to replace God with people.  
Sharmeen Ubaid Chinoy after winning the Oscar, said that she will keep working on ‘Saving Face’ and will bring more awards home.  I say God-forbid if this happens. How cruel it is to celebrate a recovery without feeling the pain victims go through. Shouldn’t people like her now make a movie on revealing the culprits and film their punishment to receive more awards.


Who is the most kind and the wisest?

The purpose is of this writing is not to pass any judgement on anyone.  This is just another tiny effort to look into the mirror of Islamic doctrine and see how many scars are left there on heart and soul.

There are 114 surahs in Qur’an and each except one (Surah At-Taubah/The Repentance) begins with the acknowledgement of God’s attributes “In The Name of Allah, The Beneficent/Compassionate, The Merciful”.  The same statement is mentioned once in Surah An-Namal/The Ants, when Prophet Sulaiman/Solomon uses the same words to begin with in a letter to the Queen of Sheba.

The same Quran mentions Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) as the mercy for all the worlds Allah (SWT) has created.  Each and every moment of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)’s life is an evidence to prove this claim to be true and certainly it has everything to do with his character.  “We have sent you but as the mercy for all worlds”… Surah Al-Anbiya 107

The words of Qur’an and the life of Prophet (pbuh) are beautiful combination of moral laws and court laws – together they are called ‘shariah’/the Islamic code of law.  Any Muslim having a doubt and then preaching it as a defect of Islam, such as ruling on two women as a witness against one man or four marriages for men and only one for woman, is considered a ‘kafir’, which literally means the one who rejects or denies.  So, the word ‘kafir’ shouldn’t be used to for non-Muslims.

Allah (SWT) says in Qur’an, ” And there are, certainly, among the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians), those who believe in Allah and in that which has been revealed to you, and in that which has been revealed to them, humbling themselves before Allah. They do not sell the Verses of Allah for a little price, for them is a reward with their Lord. Surely, Allah is Swift in account.  O you who believe! Endure and be more patient (than your enemy), and guard your territory by stationing army units permanently at the places from where the enemy can attack you, and fear Allah, so that you may be successful.”…. (Surah Aal-e-Imran/The Family of Imran 199/200)

Islam has introduced a very balanced and flexible life-style.  The exceptions and limitations in obligations are already set by the Shariah and they are termed as “hudood or hudood-Allah” in Quran.  Similarly, the Shariah has outlined the emotional expressions prohibiting extremism and exaggeration.

For example, a strong belief in our society about God is that there are no limits for glorifying Allah Almighty.  Yes, there are.  Allah (SWT) has specified how to and when to remember Him formally on daily and yearly basis, i.e. salah/prayer and Hajj/pilgrimage to Makkah.  However, there are no time limit and conditions to communicate with Him for any reason.  He Almighty is awake and present all the time.

Be wild in anger, be crazy in excitement, be pessimist in sadness, be disappointed in trials,  be haughty in richness, be silent for witness, be a support in false accusations, be overjoyed in celebrations, etc. —  this is how life events are dealt in our society, by showing extreme behaviour and this is prohibited in Islam.

Sometimes, people don’t realize that they are acting as they are wiser than Allah (SWT) and prophets.  They do violate the limits of Shariah and then defend themselves and justify their actions by giving lame excuses.  Who do they try to satisfy, God, people around us or themselves?

There are lots of things that we do and we can say that we do them because we like them.  There are many things that we don’t do and we can say that we don’t do them because we don’t like them.  We can simply say that I do this or I don’t do this because this is how understood the religion.  This is better than manipulating religious principles.  This is not wise to corrupt the religion and create complications for others by wrong interpretations of Islamic moral values.

This intentional or unintentional corruption in religion develops a guilt in mind.  This guilt often transforms into an extra-ordinary feeling of kindness and sympathy to others and is exhibited by charity work.  Those who are involved in breaking the system or if not breaking, not building the system usually rejoice themselves by feeding, helping, educating hungry and needy people at large scale.  This is one way to kill that guilt.

In the same manner, people exaggerate while consoling, condoling, grieving, describing, explaining and even guiding.  We mourn for weeks, months and years.  They exaggerate while praising sacred prophets, saints, leaders, heroes, elders, family dynasty, etc.  This exaggeration turns into controversies and contentions and finally leads to physical combats.

Sometimes people unknowingly try to pretend that they are more kind than God Almighty and His prophets.  They have more sympathies with rapists, robbers, adulterers and murderers than with the victims.    Forgiveness has its own conditions.  Forgiveness is when exercised unnecessarily to the wrong people, it benefits the criminal minds only. Only God Almighty has the right to forgive whoever He wills for any or no reason.

Sometimes people behave like they have more ego and temperament than God Almighty and His prophets.  Mostly men try this on women, elders on youngsters, rich on poor, smart on naive.  Raising voice for rights, for choice is also considered a matter of ego.  The Arabic word ‘ana’ meaning ‘I’ with the thought of completeness and absolute powers suits only to God Almighty.

I was just thinking that if Edhi, Ansar Burni Trust and other legitimate charity organizations have established as parallel to the government institutions, why don’t they join together and really make one for the sake of this country.  Edhi’s team works more like a ‘baitul-maal’.  Sarim Burni’s team plays Supreme Court in addition to police and detectives.  Shoukat Khanum Memorial Hospital’s team along with Dr. Adeeb Rizvi and many others can run the best health ministry in the world.  There are many educational institutions like Namal that can replace the board of education in all four provinces and adjacent territories.  Those who are making world records can be the best to deal with foreign affairs.

Who cares who sits in the President House!  People can choose Dr. A. Q. Khan or Justice Wajeehuddin or any other smart, honest and patriot man as a guide and leader.

Unemployed youth can head towards the villages and farms to help farmers to grow more and more food.  You know why, because food is most essential in all necessities.  They can even train themselves as a substitute to law enforcement bodies.  We are missing them any way.

People of Pakistan are a government, then why let the criminals and incompetents draw salaries from assemblies and make others beg for what they deserve?

Walking Bus – پیدل چلیے

Our early school years were in early 70s.  Karachi wasn’t a crowded place like it is now.  Traffic was also less than now and so was the pollution.  There were few private schools around but not all of them had facility of school vans.  Our school was at such a distance that we were unable to go by ourselves.  Being a very busy housewife, ammi had not time so she hired an old lady for pick and drop.  As she was already looking for some work, few more parents from our neighbourhood hired her for the same reason.  Ammi told us not to let her carry our school bags because she was physically weak and used to wear burqa (traditional covering consists of long loose gown to cover the entire body and veiled scarf to cover head, shoulder and chest).  It was a fun walk for us.  We had to walk behind or by her side on the way to school and back home.  It was a ten-minute distance which we used to cover by watching out the riders, stepping up and down on sidewalks, plucking flowers from plants hanging over the boundary walls of houses and seeing people getting ready for the day.


If this was an equivalent to the concept of Walking Bus, then it had very few advantages.  For parents, it was a cheap pick, drop facility and a safe trip of children to and from school.  For uneducated, poor, old age people, it provided with a good source of income.  It was us who made our short journey fun because at that time there were no public parks around and we were not allowed to play out on the streets.

In 1992, David Engwicht, a social innovator from Brisbane, Australia, introduced the idea of “Walking Bus” in order to solve traffic related problems.  The concept also served as a physical activity for children, awareness to the surroundings and building good terms among community members.  His idea crossed the borders and reached UK and USA with more objectives pertaining to the problems in their societies.
Many children in most countries do walk to school in groups but it cannot be defined as Walking Bus.  Walking Bus has its own particular initiatives along with the flexibility in size, use of transportation, walking rules or any useful idea related to traffic and children.
“واکنگ بس یا پیدل بس” کے نام سے ١٩٩٢میں پیش کئے جانے والے اس خیال کو دنیا کے بہت سے ممالک نے اپنایا اوراپنی نئی نسل کو فائدہ پہنچایا… اس کا مقصد بنیادی طورپربچوں میں ٹریفک اور ماحولیات کے متعلق احساس پیدا کرنا تھا… کسی بھی علاقے کے کچھ بچے مل کرایک یا دو بڑے اشخاص کی نگرانی میں گھر سے سکول تک اور سکول ختم ہونے کے بعد واپس گھرتک پیدل راستہ طے کرتے ہیں… اس دوران وہ آس پاس کی چیزوں پر نظر ڈالتے اور اس پر بات چیت بھی کرتے جاتے ہیں… راستے میں کیا چیز صحیح ہے اور کیا غلط، کوئی تبدیلی آنی چاہیے یا نہیں… انہیں اپنےعلاقے کے مسائل سے دلچسپی پیدا ہوتی ہے… دوسرے یہ کہ علاقے کے لوگ ایک دوسرے سے اجنبی نہیں رہتے…
کیا پاکستان میں ایسے تجربات نہیں کئے جا سکتے؟… ضروری نہیں کہ ہر کام بڑے پیمانے پر ہو … مجھے یاد ہے، آٹھہ نوسال پہلے کی بات ہے… ہم صبح منہ اندھیرے اور اکثرشام کو بھی نزدیک کے پارک جایا کرتے تھے… وہاں ایک شخص اکیلا آیا کرتا تھا، کوئی پچاس پچپن کے درمیاں عمرہوگی … اور بچوں کو جمع کر کے انکے ساٹھ فٹبال کھیلتا اور پھر ایک تھیلی ہاتھ میں پکڑ کر بچوں سے پارک میں بکھرے ہوۓ کاغذ وغیرہ چنواتا… لیکن ایسے لوگ بہت کم ہیں، آٹے میں نمک کے برابر… 
اور کچھ نہیں کر سکتے تو کم از کم چلتے چلتے راستے میں ملنے والے بچوں سے ہیلو ہاۓ ہی کر لیں… ایسے ہی روک کر سلام کرلیں، کوئی اچھا جملہ کہہ دیں… ابھی عادی نہیں ہیں، آھستہ آھستہ ہو جا ئیں گے… میڈیا کے لوگوں کو تو بڑا شوق ہوتا ہے خود کو منوانے کا اور مشہور ہونے کا… وہ یہ کام بہت اچھی طرح کر سکتے ہیں… اس طرح پاکستانی چہروں کو بھی مثبت پہچان ملے گی… ورنہ بھارتی اداکاروں کا جادو توڑنا بہت مشکل ہے…
پاکستان میں بھی بہت پہلے پیدل سکول جانے کا رواج تھا… اب بھی بچے نزدیک کے سکول پیدل ہی جاتے ہیں… اکثردو یا تین بچے ملکرجاتے اور آتے ہیں… لیکن اسے “واکنگ بس یا پیدل بس” کا نام نہیں دیاجا سکتا کیوںکہ اس میں ایک تو کسی بڑے کی نگرانی کا اور دوسرے راستہ طے کرنے کا اصل مقصد بھی پورا ہونا ضروری ہے… یعنی بچوں میں ٹریفک اور ماحولیات سے لگاؤ پیدا کرنا…
پاکستان میں اگر بڑے ساتھ ہوتے بھی ہیں، چاہے پیدل یا گاڑی میں تو وہ خود قانون توڑ رہے ہوتے ہیں… جگہ جگہ تھوکنا، سگنل توڑنا، غلط گاڑی کھڑی کرنا، کوڑا پھیلانا، سگریٹ پینا… 
دنیا کے پڑھے لکھے معاشروں میں ہر شخص اک ترقی پسند یا بہتری کی سوچ رکھتا ہے… اس کی سوچ کا تعلق صرف اس کی اپنی ذات اور خاندان کے فائدوں کی حد تک نہیں ہوتا بلکہ وہ اس سے اپنے آس پاس کے لوگوں کو بھی مستفید کرتا ہے… ان ملکوں میں بھی سیاسی جماعتیں ہوتی ہیں، دینی گروہ ہوتے ہیں… لیکن وہ اک دوسرے کے خلاف کھڑے ہو کر عوام کو تقسیم نہیں کرتے… نہ اپنے معاشرے میں نفرت کو
بڑھنے دیتے ہیں اور نہ ہی ایک دوسرے کی راہ میں رکاوٹیں پیدا کرتے ہیں… 
پاکستان میں تعلیم کا گرتا ہوا معیار اور جہالت کا بڑھتا ہوا تناسب کوئی اختلافی مسلہ نہیں… لیکن حیرت اس وقت ہوتی ہے جب چند بچے کچھے پڑھے لکھے اور تہذیب یافتہ لوگ بھی اپنے تمام اختیارات کے دعوؤں کے باوجود کوئی تعلیمی بہتری لانے کے معاملے  بے بس نظرآتے ہیں… جو خود بے بس ہو وہ کسی دوسرے کو اختیار کیسے دلا سکتا ہے… اور اگرکوئی یہ کہے کہ ووٹ ملے گا تو کام ہوگا اور پارلیمنٹ میں بل پاس ہوگا تو اس سے بڑھ کر دھوکے باز کوئی نہیں… 
پاکستانی معاشرہ مغربی دنیا کے پڑھے لکھے معاشروں سے بہت مختلف ہے… سماجی قدروں کے اعتبار کے لحاظ سے بھی اور مذہبی عقائد کے لحاظ سے بھی… اور ترقی کے نام پر ان دونوں سے ٹکرانا بیوقوفی نہیں جرم بھی ہے کیوں کہ یہ صرف اور صرف فساد اور نفرت کو جنم  دیتا ہے … اور یہی ہو بھی رہا ہے… آزادی اور حقوق کے مغربی تصور کو پھیلانے کے لئے کسی بھی قسم کے میڈیا کا استعمال سب سے زیادہ خطرناک ہے اگر سوچ سمجھ کر نہ کیا جائے… لیکن وہ ہو چکا ہے… آج ہماری نوجوان نسل پریشان حال کھڑی ہے کہ کدھر جائے…
بقول غالب…
ایمان مجھے روکے ہے جو کھینچے ہے مجھے کفر  
کعبہ میرے پیچھے ہے، کلیسا میرے آگے 
یہ بات ٹھیک ہے کہ سیاستدانوں نے پاکستان کو پوری دنیا میں نہ صرف بدنام کیا بلکہ اکیلا بھی کردیا… لیکن عوام بھی اس جرم میں برابر کی شریک ہے… خاص کرپاکستانی تارکین وطن… جنہوں نے باہر ملکوں میں رہ کر بھی  کبھی پاکستان کے حق میں کوئی لابی، کوئی فورم نہیں بنایا… یہ سارے کام ہم سیاسی جماعتوں پر چھوڑ دیتے ہیں… گلوبلا ئزیشن کے بعد دنیا تیرا میرا ملک نہیں رہ گئی… ہر ملک کے دوسرے ملک کے ساتھ مفادات ہیں اور کسی ایک ملک کا خطرے میں ہونا اس پورے خطّے کے لئے خطرہ ہوتا ہے…  لہٰذا اگر پاکستانی چاہتے تو بہت سے معاملات میں دلچسپی لے کر حکومت اور سیاسی جماعتوں پر دباؤ ڈال سکتے تھے جیسے کہ تعلیم، صحت، ماحولیات، انصاف… صرف عطیات بھیج دینے سے تو قومی فرض ادا نہیں ہو جاتا… اب بھی کیا بگڑا ہے… 

Happiness for Elderly People – خوشیاں بزرگوں کے لئے

The sources of happiness are innumerable.  They are spread all around and are present in every colour, even in dark in form of sweet dreams.
Happiness matters a lot in old age.  Elderly people should know how to make their last years cheerful for themselves and memorable for others.  Humans are not scarce and all mankind is one family.  They can make new ties and build new relationships.  It is a blessing to spend time among a group of your own age.  Oldies can make new friends, listen to their stories, comfort each other, share good memories and enjoy hobbies, such as reading, writing, painting, watching movies.  They are weak physically but still can discuss ideas.
In Pakistan, retirees, disabled or unwanted parents or grandparents who get to live in shelters or charities should be grateful to God Almighty for handing them over to better care-takers and new companions.  They should also be thankful to the administration, staff and donors to supply them with food, water, clothes and accommodation.
To make Pakistan a productive society, people must change their mind-set of relying upon their children in old age.  It was a problem long ago, not now.  Kudos to Mr. Abdus-Sattar Edhi and many other charities for their life time services in this regard.  Recalling the apathy and insensitivity of blood relation instead of enjoying the new fortune is ungratefulness and not a healthy exercise.
Old age is not a curse or a disease.  People just need to remind themselves that they can’t be completely useless after having a life time experience of almost everything.  If nothing they can do, still can use their tongue to express their feelings, say invocations in abundance, speak out the truth, teach the goodness, recite Qur’an, names of Allah, wazaif, pure words and say prayers for everyone.
However, there are many examples of how some men and women in old age succeeded in sustaining themselves.  There is a lady, illiterate though and underprivileged, at the age of 60, she has found a job to look after disabled old lady in a well-off family.  I have spoken to many rickshaw drivers aged above 70 who are driving rickshaw and making their own money because they don’t want to be a burden on their sons and daughters.  There is a gol-gappay wala, a decent man with a charming smile, age around 65, still working while his sons are earning too.  Many gardeners of age above 70 work at road-side nurseries and provide home services for taking care of plants.
If elderly people can find working opportunities under these crucial circumstances, why can’t the educated youth of Pakistan?
شکایت کیوں اسے کہتے ہو یہ فطرت ہے انساں کی
مصیبت میں خیال عیش رفتہ آ ہی جاتا ہے….
جوش ملیح آبادی
کون کہتا ہے نجومی، ہاتھ دیکھنے والے، زائچہ بنانے والے لوگوں کے مستقبل کے بارے میں پتہ ہوتا ہے کہ کل کیا ہوگا… ہمیں تو یہ بھی نہیں پتہ ہوتا کہ صبح اٹھہ کر کیا دیکھنا نصیب ہوگا یا شام کو اچانک کیا خبر مل جائے گی… ابھی یہی ہوا… اچانک دروازے پر دستک ہوئی، چوکیدار نے کہا باجی نیچے ڈاکٹر ریحانہ آئی ہے آپ کو بلا رہی ہے… میں نے کہا انکو کیسے پتا چلا کہ کہ میں یہاں ہوں اور وہ خود اوپر کیوں نہیں آئیں… کہنے لگا ہمیں نہیں پتہ، آپ نیچے آ کر خود بات کرو… میں گئی تو واقعی وہی تھیں… تین سال بعد دمام سے واپس آئیں ہیں، بتانے لگیں کہ وہاں کینسر ہو گیا تھا، پھر آپریشن ہوا، اب ٹھیک ہیں… شکر خدا کا… حالانکہ نفسیاتی ڈاکٹر نہیں ہیں پھربھی خواتین کو زندہ دلی کے ساتھ زندگی گزارنے کے طریقے بتانے کی ماہر ہیں… ڈاکٹر بھی اپنے علاج کے لئے کبھی کبھی دوسرے ڈاکٹروں کا محتاج ہو جاتا ہے… 
آج کے دور میں سب سے زیادہ کس کی اہمیت ہے؟  بالکل ٹھیک کہا، ٹی وی کی…چلیں ڈراموں کی بات کرتے ہیں… صرف تین ڈرامے…
ڈراموں پر اطہر شاہ خان جيدي کے دو شعر یاد آ گۓ…  
اک اداکار رکا ہے تو ہوا اتنا ہجوم
مڑ کے ديکھا نہ کسي نے جو قلمکار چلا
چھيڑ محبوب سے لے ڈوبے گي کشتي جيدي
آنکھ سے ديکھ اسے ہاتھ سے پتوار چلا
“ہمسفر” دیکھنے میں اچھا ہے لیکن اس پر بات کرنے کو کچھہ خاص نہیں ہے…
“میرے قاتل میرے دلدار” اچھا ہے، اس میں ہیروئن کا فیصلہ اچھا لگا کہ اس نے اپنے جیٹھہ سے شادی کرلی جس نے اس کا گھر تباہ کیا تھا… کیوں باقی لاٹھی اسی کے ہاتھہ میں ہے جس سے وہ سب کو ٹھیک رکھتا ہے… 
“جنت سے نکالی ہوئی عورت”… بڑا اچھا لگا اس میں ثمینہ پیرزادہ کا کردار… گوکہ مجھے یہ خاتون پسند نہیں لیکن ہیں خوبصورت اور بہت اچھی اداکارہ بھی… ایک خاتون کو ساٹھہ سال کی عمرمیں طلاق ہو جائے تواسکی زندگی کیا ہو جاتی ہے… لیکن مجھے بہت ہی پسند آیا کہ ایک تو یہ خاتون جاب کرتی ہیں اور دوسرے کسی کا معاملات میں نہیں بولتی اور تیسرے یہ کہ بیٹے کے گھر میں اپنی وجہ سے مسلے دیکھہ کر وہ اپنے والد کے پرانے گھر میں آ جاتی ہے اور اکیلے رہنے لگتی ہے…
اسی طرح کرنا چاہیے، غصے میں نہیں، بلکہ اپنی آزادی اور اختیار کے لئے… مرد ہو یا عورت، جوان ہو یا بوڑھا… کیا ضروری کہ کسی پر بھی بلاوجہ بوجھہ بنا جائے اور اولاد یا کسی بھی رشتے پر اخلاقی اور جذباتی دباؤ ڈالا جائے… بلکہ مجھے تو ان بوڑھے لوگوں پرغصہ آتا جو ایدھی اور مختلف اداروں میں زندگی گذار رہے ہیں، کھانا پینا مل رہا ہے، ایک چھت کے نیچے ہیں، بہت سے کمانے والوں کا پیسہ ان پر خرچ ہورہا ہے… اور پھر وہ ان رشتوں کو روتے رہتے ہیں جو انکو چھوڑ کر چلے گئے… کیا پتہ مجبوری ہو… اور نہ بھی ہو تو بھئی نئے رشتے بنالیں… انسانوں کی کمی نہیں… شکرکریں کہ گھر کی چخ چخ سے جان چھوٹی… دعا دیں انکو جنہوں نے اتنا انتظام کیا، آپ کو سڑک پر رلنے سے بچا لیا… اب نئی جگہ پر نئے لوگوں سے لطف لیں… ضروری نہیں کہ پچھلوں کی شکایتیں کریں کہ ہے کیسے نکلے… یہ سوچیں آپ نے کہاں کہاں کس کس کو اپنی اولاد کی خاطر نقصان پہنچایا… اور کیا کبھی اولاد کو الله کے احکامات اور احترام انسانیت سکھایا… جس طرح آپ اپنی زندگی کا کنٹرول چاہتے تھے اسی طرح آپ کی بہو بیٹے بیٹیاں بھی چاہتے ہیں… ان کے سر پر سوار نہ رہیں… خود بھی خوش رہیں اور انھیں بھی خوش رہنے دیں… 
بزرگ بہت خوش رہ سکتے ہیں اگر وہ یہ سوچ لیں کہ وہ بیکار نہیں ہیں… اتنی زندگی کے تجربات کے بعد بیکار ہو بھی نہیں سکتے… اگر کچھ بھی نہیں کر سکتے تو کم از کم زبان سے قرآن، درود، کلمات، دعائیں تو پڑھ سکتے ہیں… 
اس ڈرامے کی طلاق کا کیس دیکھہ کر باجی کی کالج کی ایک دوست یاد آ گئیں… ان کے والد نے اسی طرح ایک دن غصے میں کھانےکی میز پراپنی خاموش صفت بیوی کو طلاق دے کر بائیس تئیس سال کی شادی ختم کردی… ایک بیٹے کو جو کالج میں ماں کے ساتھ رہنا پڑا اور بیٹی جو کالج میں تھیں اور چھوٹے بیٹے کو باپ کے ساتھہ… پتہ نہیں کیسے سامنا کیا ہوگا ان سب نے باقی سب کا…
جب سے پاکستان بنا ہے، کراچی کی قوم پاکستان سے پہلے کی خوشیوں کو روۓ جا رہی ہے… اور پاکستان کے ذریعے ملنے والی تمام خوشیوں کے مواقع برباد کئے چلے جا رہی ہے… پرانی رسمیں، پرانی یادیں، حسرتیں، ملامتیں، اپنےعزیز رشتوں سے کبھی انتہا ہمدردی کبھی شدید انتقام کبھی نہ ختم ہونے والی شکایتیں کبھی دھمکیاں… بس ایک چکرہے جوچلے چلے جا رہا ہے، سب اس سے پریشان لیکن کوئی اسے روکنے پرتیارنہیں…
بھئی الله نے اتنی بڑی دنیا بنائی ہے کچھہ اس پر بھی توجہ دے لو، ہزاروں قسم کے لوگ ہیں، حسین نظارے ہیں… خوشحالی اور خوشی وہ چیزیں ہیں جو ہرجگہ اورہررنگ میں بکھری پڑی ہیں… حتی کہ اندھیرے میں بھی خوابوں کی شکل میں… بس لوگوں کے پہچاننے کی دیر ہوتی ہے…

Answers to Students’ Queries

Students are humans too.  They have brains to think and mind to judge.  They want to know about many things.  They want to discuss issues and express their opinions.

Q1) What is the link between social development and economic development?

Q2) Why do we have to learn all this?  What are we gonna do with it?

Ans) Let second go first.

Education is not just to finish syllabus, give exams and get a degree.

The reason you have to learn all this is that you have to learn how to live in this world.  Because if you don’t, people will live your life and you will have to be dependent upon people to live.

Right now you are relying upon your parents.  They are feeding you, they are buying you clothes, you live in their house.  They cannot do that forever.  After 10 or 15 years, you will have to take care of yourself.  You will have a family of your own.  How will you do that?

Now come to the first question.

Before understanding the terms and the link between them, just remember two things; first, you need money to buy necessities of life.  With more money, you can get luxuries you want.  Second, economic development does not prosper in a society which is not socially prepared for it.

Economic development is a process of gathering resources in order to generate more revenue, people of which are the key resource.

Economic development is not a convenience to work 9 to 5 and get salary at the end of the month.  It is to create a convenient environment for such conveniences.  People work 9 to 5 or flexible hours in offices, factories, hospitals, clinics, pharmacies, airports, seaports, schools, colleges, malls and shops, etc.  These places provide employment.  If they run properly, expand and make good profit, they can produce more job vacancies.

There are many people who do not want to work just 8 hours a day.  They want to earn more money than monthly salary.  They have saved some money and are capable of running a business.  If they own a shop or a factory or a clinic, they would need helpers.  That would create more jobs for people.

Television channels, radio stations, newspaper and magazines also contribute in job activities.

People also work at places owned by the government, such as electric and gas corporations, police department, public schools and colleges, government hospitals, national T.V. channel, national airline, etc.

Foreigners, the citizens of other countries, can also be good source of income.  They visit our country, pay for accommodation, do shopping and buy souvenirs.

It is people earn from people.  People employee people.  People are the part of any economic cycle.  People should know that they need each other, so they should try to be as helpful as they can in financial matters.

Social development is a process of organizing and utilizing human energies in a way that can satisfy their needs and desires.  It is a process of thinking and struggling for betterment in all aspects.

The true link between the two terms is that when you think about ‘better life’ (which is social development), you think of having money at the same time and how to avail it.  You look out for possibilities in your very surroundings or in a far place.  You find out that money making requires things that you must to consider; appearance, objectives, degree, skills, experience, job hours, working environment, nature of job/job description, attitude, moral values, job-manners, chances of learning more and earning more, etc.

People cannot be selected for jobs with inappropriate appearance.  They cannot keep a job or run a business if they are short-tempered, dishonest, disloyal, crooked and fraud and untrustworthy.

Just think about it.

Would your parents hire a tutor if he/she appears lousy, does not come on time and is not qualified for teaching?

Would you eat from a restaurant that is unhygienic and serves cheap quality food to customers?

Would people go to a doctor who’s clinic is dirty and he/she is not kind and expert in his profession?

Which shopkeeper would get more business, the one who does not weigh or measure accurately or the one who is honest?

How long can a crooked and fraud real estate agent, a sales person, a motor mechanic, a pharmacist or anyone run their business?  How will they end up finally?

Would foreigners visit your country if your streets and roads are full of dirt and garbage, there are no pleasing sights, historical landmarks are not maintained, or people are living a miserable life?

So, what is the conclusion?  You want business from world, you want world to respect you, you world to trust you – you will have to provide reasons for that or nothing will happen.

Social and Economic Development in Pakistan

Let’s start from where we are standing right now.  How optimistic are you, the students, about the working opportunities when you will complete your suggested course of study?  You are not living 50 or 60 years ago when families were fed on the earning of one person.  The unemployment rate was high at that time too but they survived because they were contented with whatever they had.  Their purpose of life was to give families “roti, kapra and makan”.  You are living at the same place but in a different era.  You are growing up in a competitive environment, domestically and internationally.  Your working field is not limited to your national boundaries.  It encompasses the entire globe and thus, you need to prepare yourself for global challenges to achieve your goals.

Before comparing yourself to the students of advanced countries and your life-style to their life-style, just do compare the opportunities too.  Students in foreign countries start working part-time at the age of 14 or 15.  By the age of 16, 17, 18, they have to live on their own, unless they agree to pay their share in rent, food and utilities.  They don’t bother their parents to have enough money for their wedding shopping, dowry and other events.  They celebrate what they can afford.  They don’t mourn and blame their parents if they can’t.  They are not after luxuries but what gives them pleasure and keeps them independent.  They take responsibility of their actions and behaviour.

In contrast, you take for granted all the favours done to you by your parents.  Remember, your parents are not your servants.  They have a right to live their lives too.  Having children and raising them up is not a life time confinement.  You have a right to stand for your rights but not at the cost of your parent’s earnings.  Your abilities to support yourself financially following all moral values would be the best proof to support your demand for freedom.





Haya – Life and Modesty

Once Arabs were a society that was indulged in adultery, vulgarity and great sins.  Pagans of Makkah were rude, uncivilized, barbaric, cheaters, liars, abusive and obscene.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), a person from the same society, diverted them towards piety, purity, modesty, simplicity and goodness.  He did not curse pagan’s faith, did not criticize their rituals, never raised his eye-brows and changed his voice harsh against their immodest activities, never confined himself to his beloveds, never refuses to help those who hated him.  He never stampeded on streets to terrorize Makkans with the power of his anger, except at the time of victory of Makkah, such a unique incident when he invaded the city with peace and forgiveness.

He was a socially developed person by nature; full of wisdom, admirer of beauty and pleasure, a symbol of grace and modesty/haya, confident in himself and smiling to people.  He knew how to and when to communicate with people.  He openly declared that he loves three things the most and those were perfume, salah and women (he did not use the name of any relationship).  And what he said, he always meant.

Haya/modesty is an inevitable part of Muslims’ faith, both men and women.  It is also categorized as one of the prophetic attributes.  With the root letters ‘ha and ya’, it literally means ‘life’ in Arabic.  In religious terms, it has been described as covering body (practice the ruling of sitr/body parts that should be covered), shyness (lower gaze/extreme softness), chastity (staying away from sex related activities), timidity (lack of confidence/not so sure), modesty (a moderate behaviour/simplicity/humbleness).  Haya is not a culture or tradition.  Haya is not a gender-based characteristic.  Haya requires not to shut women inside their houses and their disconnection to God’s world.

Beside its literal meanings, the most suitable word for ‘haya’ in English is ‘modesty’.  Allah (SWT) created the world with balance.  “He has set up the Balance (of Justice),  In order that ye may not transgress (due) balance.  So establish weight with justice and fall not short in the balance.” Surah Ar-Rahman/The Most Compassionate.  God brought universe into existence with balance (equilibrium, harmony, limits, due proportion, moderation).  The balance, with above synonyms, ensures life, not in span but in quality.  This entire surah describes the diversity of things working in their own limitations, which Allah (SWT) mentions as “the blessings from your Lord” and He orders us not to destroy it.

“And a sign for them is the night, We withdraw therefrom the day, and behold, they are in darkness.  And the sun runs on its fixed course for a term (appointed). That is the Decree of the All-Mighty, the All-Knowing.  And the moon, We have measured for it mansions (to traverse) till it returns like the old dried curved date stalk.  It is not for the sun to overtake the moon, nor does the night outstrip the day. They all float, each in an orbit.”  Surah Yaseen.

Prophet Muhammad (pubh) said, “Haya/modesty does not bring but goodness.”  He is right.  A humble, moderate, pure and simple behaviour causes nothing but beauty, pleasure and relaxation.  The way he ate, drank, walked, talked, greeted people, welcomed his opponents, treated animals, cheered children, respected women, helped the needy, behaved at home, led campaigns (both preaching and political), fought battles, treated prisoners, imposed laws, told stories, tolerated enmity, settled disputes, explained Qur’an, delivered sermons, ruled Madinah, ran the government – all reveal the secrets of his extraordinary, unique, short-time success in driving people towards piety, purity, modesty, simplicity and goodness.

So in general, haya is a process of knowing your own limitations and letting others (diversities) live and work in their specified boundaries/hudood.  Qur’an has warned us at many places not to break the limits that Allah (SWT) has ordained on every Muslim.  Haya is used in Urdu in the meanings of limitations too, such as, ‘haya karo, masjid main kharay ho ker jhoot boltay ho…. kuch to haya kur, maan baap se is tarah baat kertay hain…. oye haya kur, is ne teray liye bohat qurbaniyyan di hain….. koi haya nahi, jo munh main ataa hay buk deta/deti hay…. oye haya ker, Allah ka khata hay aur Allah ki na farmani kerta hay…. etc.

The world right now is under the process of globalization, all countries under one flag, the whole world population under unified system – many evil powers have imposed wars in order to control the entire globe.  It is only Islam which is worthy of being the ruling power of the world because it is based on characteristics and merit.  People of the world are looking for solutions to their problems and what Muslims are showing them is anger, fire, hatred to their beloved days.

George Bernard Shaw said, “If any religion had the chance of ruling over England, nay Europe within the next hundred years, it could be Islam.  I have always held the religion of Muhammad in high estimation because of its wonderful vitality. It is the only religion which appears to me to possess that assimilating capacity to the changing phase of existence which can make itself appeal to every age. I have studied him – the wonderful man and in my opinion for from being an anti-Christ, he must be called the Savior of Humanity.  I believe that if a man like him were to assume the dictatorship of the modern world he would succeed in solving its problems in a way that would bring it the much needed peace and happiness: I have prophesied about the faith of Muhammad that it would be acceptable to the Europe of tomorrow as it is beginning to be acceptable to the Europe of today.”

http://www.emro.who.int/publications/healthedreligion/IslamicPerspective/Chapter3.htm  The site mentions how considerate was Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) regarding carefulness and precautions.

Jamat-e-Islami announced to observe ‘Yom-e-Haya’ meaning ‘the modesty day’ on 14th February.

Christians have their reason to celebrate Valentine’s Day on 14th February.  Just like Muslims celebrate their own occasions with their own understanding.  For Muslims, if everyday is a mother’s day, father’s day, sister and brother’s day, teacher’s day, when what could be the reason for observing ‘haya’ on one day.  Haya should also be practiced everyday.  It is not just Valentine’s Day which non-Islamic.  Jahez, rape, infanticide, birthdays, Happy New Year parties, mayon and mehndi, prostitution in every neigbourhood, drug, illiteracy (inability to read and write), beggary, standing and cheering on the body of dead animals, cows and goats eating from garbage, cats and dogs wandering in search of food,  also fall into this category.

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said,  “Cursed be everyone who causes harm to a believer or schemes against him.”

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “No believer may humiliate himself”. When he was asked how any person would humiliate himself, he said: “By exposing himself to risks with which he cannot cope.” (it doesn’t mean that one should not experiment or try but with preparations and precautions.)

He (pbuh) said, “Shall I tell you the definition of a believer? He is one with whom people feel themselves and their property to be safe. A Muslim is the one who does not abuse people by word or deed.”

See the following photo in the light of above hadith, what are we showing to the world, our ability to burn things out, is it according to what Prophet (pbuh) said?  Why do veiling women only show up with danda/sticks and fire?  Does Islam stop women to step out for positive reasons, such as planting flowers and trees, volunteering at Edhi centers in taking care of orphans and traveling within the allowed distance to educate children?

Islam strictly forbids cursing or insulting other’s faith and festivals.  According to Qur’anic logic, if you do that, you will get the same reaction from the other side.  Muslims should are not advised to instigate a situation against anyone but to settle down matters wisely.

Many people suggest that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) should be kept out of discussions.  Why?  Allah (SWT) says in Surah Al-Ahzab, “in Prophet’s seerah/character, there is the best example for you”.  Discussions based on what is haram and what is halal are incomplete without including Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).  We cannot treat him like a maulvi or a scholar that we drag him in at nikah/wedding sermon, divorce, aqiqah, for reading Qur’an or do milad otherwise we just keep him out of our lives.  He is guidance for us in every aspect of our lives.  He is nothing to be afraid of.

Many say, the anger is not against Christians or their festivals but Muslims who follow non-Islamic traditions.  This is just like cursing and burning kids in neighbourhood to show anger against your own child because he/she is following them.  It is your failure, you should curse yourself, burn banners with your name on them, you stand in front of the mirror and say to yourself ‘get lost’ and ‘my foot’.

Islam did not come to exterminate other’s religion, culture and traditions.  It came to introduce people the best way to a quality life.  It came to show how beautifully, peacefully and prosperously the whole mankind live under the flag of Islam.

حیا نہیں لاتی مگر خیر۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ 

شکر ہے ویلنٹانئز شہداء کا کہ جماعت اسلامی کو یوم حیا منانے کا اعزاز دے گئے۔۔۔ حالانکہ حیا کا پیغام اتنا ہی پرانا ہے جتنی انسانی تایخ۔۔۔ رسول الله صلی الله علیہ وسلم کو بھی حیا کا پیغام لائے چودہ سو سال گذر گئے۔۔۔ اور یوم حیا کا آج خیال آیا۔۔۔ عیسائیوں اور امریکنوں کے مقابلے پر۔۔۔

یوم حیا تو وہ دن تھا جس دن حضرت عائشہ رضی الله عنہا کی عزت اور عصمت پر لگائے گئے الزام کا داغ خود الله سبحانہ وتعالی نے قرآن کی آیات سے دھویا۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یوم حیا وہ دن تھا جب حضرت مریم علیہ السلام کی عزت اور عصمت پر لگائے گئے الزام کا دفاع ان کے معصوم بیٹے نے کیا۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یوم حیا وہ دن تھا جب حضرت یوسف علیہ السلام عزت اور عصمت پر لگائے گئے الزام کا جواب ان کے اپنے جسم پر موجود لباس نے دیا۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یوم حیا وہ دن تھا جب الله سبحانہ وتعالی نے قرآن کے ذریعے حضرت زینب بنت جحش کا آپ صلی الله علیہ وسلم کے ساتھہ نکاح کا اعلان کیا اور منافقوں کی زبانیں بند کیں۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔

لیکن جماعت اسلامی یا آج کل کے دینی لوگ کیا جانیں۔۔۔ کیا جانیں یہ کسی کی عزتیں بچانا, خوبصورتی اور احسان کے ساتھہ۔۔۔۔ یہ مقابلے کرسکتے ہیں, شک کرسکتے ہیں, تجسس کرسکتے ہیں, الزامات لگا سکتے ہیں, سزا سنا سکتے ہیں۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ 

سمجھہ نہیں آیا کہ اگر مسلمانوں کے لئے ہر دن ماں کادن, ہر دن باپ کا دن, ہر دن محبت کا دن۔۔۔ تو پھر حیا کے لئے ایک خاص دن کیوں۔۔۔ حیا بھی ہر دن ہونی چاہئے۔۔۔۔

ہمارے دینی لوگوں کی ذہنیت ملاحظہ ہو۔۔۔۔ لال مسجد کی خواتین ڈنڈے لے کر نکل آئیں سڑکوں پر۔۔۔ جماعت اسلامی کی خواتین نے سڑکوں پر آکر دنیا کو دکھایا کہ ہم جلانے کی طاقت بھی رکھتے ہیں۔۔۔

بس۔۔۔ یہی سیکھا سکھایا قرآن سے۔۔۔ مارنا, جلانا۔۔۔ 

اسلام سے محبت کا اظہار بھی بے چارے دوسروں سے نفرت کا اظہار کرکے کرتے ہیں۔۔۔ اور کوئی طریقہ نہیں سیکھا شاید۔۔۔  چلو سستی شہرت ہی سہی, دنیا میں مشہور تو ہوئے۔۔۔

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