2012 in review

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Things that I learned from my daughter’s wedding…


There is no company that can be compared to the family, rest is only the matter of give and take, profit and loss.  I am thankful to Allah (SWT) for returning the love of my family to me.


Single mothers should not be worried about their daughter’s marriage.  Fatherless daughters are given away more decently.


Young couples can live happily if they learn to do things on their own and try to balance all relations.


All tasks are accomplished only with the help of Allah (SWT).

Thanks to My Family

I am extremely grateful to my parents and my brothers and sisters and their children and my relatives for their joyous participation and warm wishes in my daughter’s wedding.  Her successful event for my is like a dream come true.

May Allah (SWT) bless them all, accept all their good deeds, forgive their mistakes, make their lives easy in this world and in the Hereafter, Ameen!

May they all be rewarded at maximum for their love and all kind of support to make my daughter’s events happy and unforgettable, Ameen!

Mehndi, Wedding, Valima



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بیٹی کی رخصتی

پاکستان میں جس ماں کے گھر بیٹی ہو وہ بیٹی کے رخصت ہونے کے خواب ضرور دیکھتی ہے… بلکہ اسکی پیدائش سے ہی اسکی شادی کے بارے میں سوچنا شروع کر دیتی ہے… کیسے ہوگی، کس کے ساتھ ہوگی، کیا ہوگا…  خوش نصیب ہوتی ہیں وہ بیٹیاں جو ماؤں کے ہاتھوں رخصت ہوں کیونکہ یہ ذمہ داری صرف ماں ہی نبھا سکتی ہے… لیکن اگر بیٹی کو رخصت کرنا ذمہ داری کے ساتھ ساتھ اعزاز بھی ہوتا ہے تو پھر بھی اپنی بیٹی کے معاملے میں یہ اعزاز مجھے ہی حاصل ہے… آخر پیدا کیا اسے، پالا پوسا، تکلیفیں اٹھائی ہیں اسکے لئے… ایسے ہی تو کوئی نہ گھر بیٹھے چند ہمدردیاں کر کے یہ اعزاز حاصل نہیں کر سکتا نہ… ہے نا بھئی، ٹھیک کہ رہی ہوں نا… ہاں ماں مر جاۓ پھر اور بات ہے… 
خیر الله کے لاکھ لاکھ شکر ہے کہ اس نے مجھے اور میری بیٹی کو اپنی رحمت اور امی بابا کے سایے میں رکھا… مالک آگے بھی خیر کرے… 
ہائے ہائے، پہلی مرتبہ معلوم ہوئی خاندان کی اہمیت… یہ خاندان ہی ہوتا ہے جو وقت پر خوشیوں میں بھر پور طریقے سے شریک ہو جاتا ہے… ہر کوئی آنے کو تیّار ہے شادی میں… اور میری تو یہ پچھلے بائیس سالوں میں تیسری بہت بڑی خوشی ہے… پہلی بیٹی پیدا ہونے کی… دوسری پاکستان میں رہنے کی اور تیسری بیٹی کی میرے ہاتھوں رخصتی… بس اگر چار پانچ غیر ضروری آوٹ سایڈرز کم ہو جائیں تو میں اپنے ہی رشتہ داروں کو ایڈجسٹ کرلوں… 
اور یہ ہے میری بیٹی کی پسندیدہ وڈیو… جب وہ ایک ڈیڑھ سال کی تھی تو مسلسل یہی وڈیو دیکھتی تھی… امی راکھی دیکھنی ہے، امی راکھی دیکھنی ہے… انجمن کا شکریہ جن نے میری بیٹی کا دل خوش کیا… اور نیچے والا گانا میں سنتی تھی جب میں ایک سال کی تھی… امی کو یاد ہے یہ بات… ماں ہیں نہ…




Get Well Soon Edhi!

Just heard about respected Mr. Edhi being hospitalized.

Ya Allah (SWT)! Mr. Edhi is running half Pakistan.  Please keep him healthy and active as he’s always been.  If something happens to him , who’s gonna provide me with kafn and dafn.  So please have Mercy on him.  Ameen!  :'(

But if You want to do a great favor, please take Zardari, Altaf Yazeed, Nawaz Sharif and Shahi Syed ‘s souls away.


Happy Daughter’s Wedding and Happy Anniversary

Daughters need to know what’s going on at their wedding and should take part in all matters regarding their marriage.  This is a very unique thought in Pakistan.  Whoever practices it, is thought to be bold and rebellious at some point.

I actually encouraged my daughter to be that bold and rebellious of unnecessary rituals and traditions.  It was one of my dream and the part of the planning that she makes all the major decisions about her life on her own.  Who to marry, what to wear, how to manage the events, who to invite, the cards, the mehr, the dowry, the venue and the menu.  Every single decision was her personal choice done with the couple’s mutual understanding.

I am very proud of my daughter and her groom that they managed the things very wisely.  Attending the three family marriages in row from July 6 to July 14, my little apartment, even with the guests living in, is all peaceful just like it is in normal days.  No noises, no panic, no running to the markets, no lost and found.

The day she is getting married is the most sacred day of my life as it will be our 10th anniversary of Happy Returns to Pakistan.  The day after her wedding is her 21st birthday.  I waited for these days for long.  I hope and pray that nothing happening bad will ruin my joys.

I am thankful to my parents for a great support throughout the years and my siblings for all they could do to make this event the most memorable for us.  I am also thankful to my uncle and cousin who are here to give my daughter a way on that day.  This is what I learned in all these years, “A family is a family after all, rest don’t matter”.

I am proud of myself too that unlike typical mothers, I avoided being possessive and did not interfere in anything at all whether I agreed or not.

And I am grateful to Allah Almighty for blessing me with such an enormous amount of patience and fortitude for such a long time, for providing me with all the sustenance that I needed and for protecting me and my daughter from all evils.

I needed nothing but Allah’s Mercy and His Blessings and this is all I need till my last breath.

I wish my daughter all the goodness in everything that Allah (SWT) has created and may Allah protect her and her husband from all the evils that Allah (SWT) has created.  I wish myself having a good time with Pakistan.  AMEEN!




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