Daughters need to know what’s going on at their wedding and should take part in all matters regarding their marriage. This is a very unique thought in Pakistan. Whoever practices it, is thought to be bold and rebellious at some point.
I actually encouraged my daughter to be that bold and rebellious of unnecessary rituals and traditions. It was one of my dream and the part of the planning that she makes all the major decisions about her life on her own. Who to marry, what to wear, how to manage the events, who to invite, the cards, the mehr, the dowry, the venue and the menu. Every single decision was her personal choice done with the couple’s mutual understanding.
I am very proud of my daughter and her groom that they managed the things very wisely. Attending the three family marriages in row from July 6 to July 14, my little apartment, even with the guests living in, is all peaceful just like it is in normal days. No noises, no panic, no running to the markets, no lost and found.
The day she is getting married is the most sacred day of my life as it will be our 10th anniversary of Happy Returns to Pakistan. The day after her wedding is her 21st birthday. I waited for these days for long. I hope and pray that nothing happening bad will ruin my joys.
I am thankful to my parents for a great support throughout the years and my siblings for all they could do to make this event the most memorable for us. I am also thankful to my uncle and cousin who are here to give my daughter a way on that day. This is what I learned in all these years, “A family is a family after all, rest don’t matter”.
I am proud of myself too that unlike typical mothers, I avoided being possessive and did not interfere in anything at all whether I agreed or not.
And I am grateful to Allah Almighty for blessing me with such an enormous amount of patience and fortitude for such a long time, for providing me with all the sustenance that I needed and for protecting me and my daughter from all evils.
I needed nothing but Allah’s Mercy and His Blessings and this is all I need till my last breath.
I wish my daughter all the goodness in everything that Allah (SWT) has created and may Allah protect her and her husband from all the evils that Allah (SWT) has created. I wish myself having a good time with Pakistan. AMEEN!